“Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips, nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, that they may encourage the younger women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be dishonored” (Titus 2:3-5).
My commitment to mentoring comes from my early years as a young professional when there was an absence of older women who were willing to lend a helping hand. Many offered criticism, few offered help. I vowed that if I survived, I would be willing to help others on their spiritual and professional journeys. The young women whom I have mentored serve our Lord throughout the world. I love the times when I answer the phone and have the opportunity to talk with one of them. Their personal visits are always a blessing, and their e-mails, cards, and letters often arrive to encourage and minister to me on challenging days. I am looking forward to our reunion in heaven and count it a privilege to be “the older woman” in their lives!
The mentoring strategy outlined in Titus 2:3-5 provides the method for the Proverbs 31 Woman to activate the Principles of Trustworthy, Unselfish, Prepared, Prudent, Lovable and God-Fearing (see my June blog post). The MacArthur Study Bible provides a definition of the role of the older woman to the younger woman described in Titus 2:3-5 by stating, “their own example of godliness (v. 3) gives older women the right and the credibility to instruct younger women in the church. The obvious implication is that older women must exemplify the virtues (vs. 4, 5) that they ‘admonish.’” The biblical rational for mentoring is clearly articulated in Titus 2:5, “that the word of God may not be blasphemed.”
Dr. MacArthur writes, “This is the purpose of godly conduct—to eliminate any reproach on Scripture. For a person to be convinced God can save from sin, one needs to see someone who lives a holy life. When Christians claim to believe God’s Word but do not obey it, the Word is dishonored. Many have mocked God and His truth because of the sinful behavior of those who claim to be Christians.”[1]
Despite the fact that Titus 2:3-5 is an instruction, not a suggestion, to Christian women, few are willing to embrace it. Excuses range from, “I don’t know that much” to “no one cares what I have to say”; however, when an older woman hides behind these excuses she is sinning by failing to obey a clear instruction from her heavenly Father. Remembering that an excuse is not a substitute for obedience
(1 Samuel 15:22), a Proverbs 31 Woman joyfully practices this biblical instruction!
PUTTING TITUS 2:3-5 INTO ACTION
“Be imitators of me, just as I also am of Christ” (1 Corinthians 11:1).
The Titus 2:3-5 relationship must move beyond a one-on-one Bible study for it to be scripturally applied. If mentoring is defined only as teaching or studying a book together, the importance of relationship and community so critical to Christ’s definition of ministry is missed. It is relationship that makes the Christian life critically alive. As image bearers we are created and redeemed for relationship. This is God’s desire. His call to delight in Him, seek Him, and enjoy Him can be understood first as the mentor models this kind of relationship. I believe that Titus 2 relationships can be either formal or informal and have some practical suggestions for each to share with you.
Formal Mentoring Suggestions
“Be diligent to present yourself approved to God as a workman who does not need to be ashamed, handling accurately the word of truth”
(2 Timothy 2:15).
- Reading and discussing a Christian women’s book together (for example, Lies Women Believe and the Truth that Sets Them Free, Loving God with all Your Mind, The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace or Becoming a Woman Who Pleases God).
- Completing a study on a book of the Bible (perhaps the book of James or Philippians).
- Reading and discussing a commentary (such as Titus).
- Memorizing Scripture or keeping a prayer journal and then spending time talking and praying together each week.
Informal Mentoring Suggestions
“That you may not be sluggish, but imitators of those who through faith and patience inherit the promises” (Hebrews 6:12).
- Discussing questions raised by the younger woman (questions can be related to relationships, skills, or life experiences. My new book God Is My Strength to be released in October provides 50 questions that could provide a foundation for such discussions).
- Working on projects together such as planning events or holidays to learn practical skills in management (set goals then work together to accomplish them).
- Simply spending time together talking and letting the younger woman see your life and family.
- Sharing your knowledge about practical home management (menu planning, cleaning house, or paying the bills).
Whether formal or informal, a Titus 2 relationship begins when younger and older women regularly spend time together. Today, will you ask your heavenly Father to allow you to become involved in a Titus 2 relationship? I believe you will be eternally grateful!
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As well, you might enjoy attending the “Building a Culture of Biblical Femininity in the Home, Church and Community” Conference on the Southwestern campus October 1-3. Visit www.RockCreekBC.org for more information.
[1] MacArthur, John. 1997. The MacArthur Study Bible. Nashville: Word, 1886-1887.
