A question that women often ask me is, “How do I know if I am pleasing my heavenly Father?” I am amazed that they anticipate a deep theological or even mystical response to come forth from my lips. However, my response is generally something like, “God’s will for your life and mine is to do whatever is necessary to fulfill His special instructions for women.” One set of instructions is found in Titus 2:3-5. Younger women are to learn from the example of older women how to love their husbands and children, to be discreet (careful), chaste (sexually pure), homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, so that God’s Word is not discredited. The passage, though specifically focused on husbands and children, is for all women, single or married, since one’s attitude and skills prior to marriage and parenting will affect the new relationship.
So how do we maintain a godly home with excellence and at the same time experience joy and contentment? Galatians 5:22-25 provides the lubricant to fulfill the instructions. When we seek, through the strength of the Holy Spirit, to embrace the nine attitudes presented in the passage, our homes have the potential of becoming a bit of heaven on earth. Let’s focus on some lubricant statements that encourage us to “walk in the spirit” so that we are refusing to “fulfill the lust of the flesh” . . .
God has said the Fruit of the Spirit is Love. Therefore,
- Love should motivate all of my actions (1 John 3:18).
- Because God loved me first I am to love others—even when I do not “feel like it” (1 John 4:11).
God has said the Fruit of the Spirit is Joy. Therefore,
- Joy is based on my relationship with my heavenly Father rather than circumstances (James 1:2).
- I will acknowledge that a negative spirit squelches my joy in the Lord (1 Peter 1:6-8).
God has said the Fruit of the Spirit is Peace. Therefore,
- I can rest in His peace knowing that He works all things together for my good (Romans 8:28).
- The peace of God should permeate all of my relationships (Colossians 3:12-15).
God has said the Fruit of the Spirit is Patience. Therefore,
- I find favor with God when I do good in the midst of suffering (1 Peter 2:18-23).
- I am to exhibit patience towards everyone (1 Thessalonians 5:14).
God has said the Fruit of the Spirit is Kindness. Therefore,
- I should be kind to the unthankful and evil because God extends His kindness to me when I am unkind and ungrateful (Luke 6:35).
- An evidence of my growing faith is the extension of kindness (Proverbs 31:26; 2 Peter 1:5-11).
God has said the Fruit of the Spirit is Goodness. Therefore,
- I acknowledge my need of the Holy Spirit to produce fruitful work (Romans 7:18-19).
- I must choose to overcome evil with good (Romans 12:21).
God has said the Fruit of the Spirit is Faithfulness. Therefore,
- I should follow His model since He is the personification of faithfulness (Revelation 19:11).
- I am to embrace His example and keep my promises (1 John 1:9).
God has said the Fruit of the Spirit is Gentleness. Therefore,
- I am to gently deal with others (Ephesians 4:2).
- As His child I am to put on gentleness daily (Colossians 3:12).
God has said the Fruit of the Spirit is Self-Control. Therefore,
- I will intentionally avoid the path of the wicked (Proverbs 4:14-15).
- I will diligently protect my heart since it is the depository of all wisdom and stimulates all that I say and do (Proverbs 4:23).
It is my prayer that these lubricant statements will motivate you to joyfully become a TTWIT—Titus Two Woman in Transition (we are always in transition until the Lord comes or our heavenly Father calls us home). As you continue in your transition, will you consider practicing the RECIPE FOR A SPIRIT-FILLED HOME?
BLEND TITUS 2:3-5 WITH GALATIANS 5:22-23 TO YIELD A HOME WHERE GOD IS GLORIFIED.
Blessings on your transition journey!
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